According to psychologists, a simple but effective phrase can help.
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To reassure yourself and your partner, it’s worth saying: "Remember, you and I are on the same team."
Psychologists say that as soon as a dispute begins, the body becomes stressed and forms a “fight or run” reaction, often we choose the battle option and attack the partner with a word.
Reminding that you are in the same team will help you understand that the conflict can be resolved peacefully. After all, you have a common goal – to come to an agreement and live in peace and harmony.
The author of the study and family coach Trey Morgan says that he himself often uses this phrase during conflicts with his wife.
“When we had a dispute, the two of us wanted to drag the lever of rightness to our side and, accordingly, blame the other for stupidity. It was several years before it dawned on us that we were on the same team. We finally realized that we would either win together, or lose. Because that’s what it means to be on the same team. "
Reminding each other that you are in the same team, you calm down and focus on ways to solve the problem, find a compromise.
In addition, a pause of 10 or 15 seconds will slow the heartbeat and help you calm down.
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